Valentine's Day falls on a weekend this year, which means that you can actually spend the holiday having fun. 

Being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a day of feeling sorry for yourself. Break away from tradition and re-invent the day as a reflection of who you are and a celebration of your life. Spend the day loving yourself!

1. Love your singleness.

Think about all the marvelous benefits of being single, from not fighting over the TV remote control to being able to keep your living space as clean or as messy as you'd like. The "couples" messaging is strong but it isn't a reflection of the full reality of how people choose to live their lives; don't fall for the hype that everyone's paired off and happy as a result. There are many very happy single people but it's just not currently fashionable to cover the happiness of being single in media or political discourse.

  • Write a list of all the good points about being single. For example, free time, no compromises on the home front, less responsibilities, etc. And think about how some of those good points would evaporate within a relationship. Focus on the benefits rather than seeing drawbacks.

  • If people choose to rub your "singleness" in your face on Valentine's Day, be strong and reply: "I like being single and I'm not looking for anybody". I get to choose how I want to live. It will happen when it should". And you might wish to mention that statistics reveal that half the community is single, with 51 percent of women, for example, living without a spouse.

2. Treat yourself.

 As you're standing in the line waiting to pay for your mundane everyday items, if you find yourself falling for the doe-eyed stuffed teddy holding a heart while wishing someone would send you one of those soppy cards, or you're salivating over the box of heart-shaped chocolates, consider treating yourself instead of beating yourself up. If that teddy is so cute you want it on your bed, give in. Buy yourself a bouquet of your favorite blooms. Or better yet, splurge on buying something you'd really like to have, like a bottle of perfume, clothes, shoes, jewelry or a recent book by a favorite author. Don't make this day about hurt and loss. Make it all about love, even when single!

  • Do something decadent like attend a day spa all day long or go for a sightseeing flight over your city. Take along some friends if doing this alone feels weird.

  • Often single people don’t get enough physical touch, skin-skin contact with another person. Regular professional massages can help offset the craving for human contact.


3. Love your exercise.

 If love has you in its grip, shake it off like you'd shake off the blues, with some good old-fashioned exercise. A run around the park, a skate across the rink, trapeze lessons, take a pole dance, yoga classes or a swim in the pool might be just the ticket to help you resist the more primal desires.

4. Trow a party.

 Break Bread with Friends. Get your single friends together for a pot luck dinner. Do a theme party like having a wine and cheese night where everyone brings their favorite food and drink. Celebrate being fabulous.

5. Give Yourself a Red-Hot Mani/Pedi

There's a reason traffic lights and stop signs are bright red. The color, well, stops traffic. Amp up your look by painting your nails with a scarlet polish. Yes, dark manicures can be hard to master, but there's no need to drop cash on a professional. Just follow these tips: use a base coat to avoid staining. And when applying the red, start at the center of the nail so that the excess paint will slide onto your nail and not the cuticle. Make sure to do your toes, too. Feet get neglected in the wintertime and a pedi will make you feel totally pampered.

6. Relax in the Bath

Showers aren't exactly the most relaxing, especially if you're rushing to get ready, and baths for two can sometimes feel cramped and awkward. So hop in the tub solo and veg out for an hour or two. Add bubbles, light some yummy-smelling candles, put on your favorite music and get your favorite meal or snacks. You won't be able to pick up your phone or check your e-mail (seriously, don't try), which will make the time soaking even more chill and invigorating.

7. Find out what's happening in the singles scene.

A number of bars hold singles parties that will give you the chance to celebrate the day as an unattached person. Don't take your love expectations though; just go to have a great time and to discover some new people to talk to and share cocktails with. This isn't about falling for anyone out of loneliness!

8. Plan a Fun outdoor.

 Throw a skating party with friends where you can all get into the spirit of play and remember those carefree days when romance wasn’t important.

9. Brave the online dating world.

 If you really just want to go on a Valentine’s date, but you haven’t been having much luck on your own, why not try online dating? There are plenty of different sites to choose from, and most of them also offer easy ways to go from online to in-person., for instance, has a mobile app called “Crazy Blind Date” which lets you pick a time and place. The app will choose a blind date and send him or her to meet you there. You can also stick with the more traditional method of browsing profiles and chatting online with potential matches. This can be a fun way to spend your Valentine’s Day if you’re not looking to venture outside on the sappiest day of the year, and it may even be fun to do with friends.

10. Tell friends and family how much you love them.  Call and say “I love you” and spend a few minutes catching up. It will make their day.

Use this as an opportunity to celebrate love of all sorts, and express your appreciation and affection for the amazing people in your life (we never tell them as much as we should). Give Valentine's Day cards to those close to you, like your co-workers and friends, as well as those not so close to you, like the barista who serves you your coffee.

11. Go See 'How To Be Single'.

'How To Be Single' comes out right in time for Valentine's Day. Why not embrace your single status and take notes on the "right" way to do so. This all-star cast (Rebel Wilson, Dakota Johnson, Alison Brie, Leslie Mann) will have you cracking up. All the giggling will leave no time for feeling SAD on this Singles Awareness Day.


12. Spend All Day In Bed. 

Couples spend Valentine's Day in bed, and you should too. Eat breakfast in bed, stay in your pajamas all day, and bundle up under the covers. Watch Netflix, read a book, write that screenplay you've been meaning to start — just don't leave the coziness of your bed. You'll feel totally refreshed and ready to go on Feb. 15.


Being single on Valentine’s Day is not the end of the world =) I hope this post has inspired you to stay positive and have fun!

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